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I have been really down lately. I get in moods where I don't want to talk to anyone, and even my closest friends annoy the shit out of me. It has begun to happen about once a week, and is starting to affect my everyday life.
Any of you out there ever dealt with this? If so, what did you do?
Thanks fellow be-maggers.
*insert obligatory smoke weed and drink comment*
^don't do that.. makes it worse
If you're becoming really moody, it might be a sign of a slight bipolar disorder. What I'd do is track what you're doing when your mood shifts and see if there are any triggers. In addition to that being more physically active can benefit your mood. Sometimes developing a new hobby (learning to play an instrument or something) can keep your mind preoccupied which will prevent you from thinking self-defeating thoughts. Sunlight is also a factor, so if you can get outside more too, it has some effect.
I fucking hear you dude. I used to get so depressed I wouldn't get out of my bed for days at a time unless it was to get something to eat or drink. Fucking crying and all that bullshit. There really isn't a certain way to deal with the shit, since it's all mental. Play music man. That shit draws on all the ill feelings you have and you can watch yourself get better. Do something productive.
Actually there is something you can do about it. You can just stop giving a fuck. That was probably the greatest thing that happened to me. I have never been happier sitting in my room not doing shit. The outside world sucks mostly. I hate being out there. All of those life experiences people talk about are overrated and over exaggerated.
I stopped talking to friends completely. Now I'm 30 making friends is awkward as fuck.
I find when i'm down a certain song on repeat and lying in a darkroom helps shitty anxious thoughts subside and the next day I'm okay.
All i can suggest is to keep busy. As wierd as it sounds having a constant routine of things to do helps as well.
Exercise works, go for a skate...
If that doesnt work take meds, everyone else is medicated for shit, why not you.
If it helps when you get older it goes, but that seems so far away.
Lastly tell your friends this, if their your friends it wont be such a problem, tell them mentally you want to be alon and not associate with them, but its not physically the best thing and you want the opposite. Tell them you may be hard to be around your sorry if you act like a jerk sometimes.
DO NOT ABONDONE YOUR FRIENDS OR YOU WILL BE FOREVER ALONE>...
Lastly, bitch about it on be-mag.....I do, zim did before he was banned and krish does....
also do things you enjoy. hopefully that's skating but sometimes you can do even that too much.
when that time comes it's time to do manly ass things like throwing ninja stars and setting things on fire. other adrenaline rush type stuff really moves those happy emotions out there.
Get one or more plants and start maintaining a garden. There's nothing like growing plants.
Collect seeds while you're at it too, seeds will be very valuable in the coming world collapse.
You'll be a rich man.
I'm serious about the plant thing though, I have a few plants that I look after and it's turned my flat into somewhere I'm happy to be!
1. Keep a video diary.
2. Sell to interested docu. Company.
life is beautiful. Im thankful for the times im down because it makes me appreciate being happy that much more. I used to be an extremely depressed teenager but one day in my senior I stopped taking all of my medication and it was the best shit ever. Conventional medication wont do shit but make you feel like a zombie. Smoking weed and skating and being around awesome people helps a lot.
Get the fuck out of your "comfort zone". Start doing different activities. Keep your mind busy. See your friends at least once a week, even if you don't feel like doing so.
Change, if life sucks try it. Try a new job, new creative outlet, exercise... Sometimes honestly nothing works but time. There cant be highs with the lows!
go see a therapist. doing drugs will only mask the problem.
something that might sound shitty but can also help is that youre so insignificant. like what the fuck do you matter
out of the 6 billion people in the world? you only live once so trying to do as many fun things as you can while you
have time here is important. no need to feel sorry for yourself man its not that bad, i understand its a sickness but
you can beat a sickness in your head with good, clean, prosperous thoughts.
smoke weed skate drink 40s
i'm going through a brakeup and my eyes fucking opened up, in the time i was with this fuckup my skating got so fucking neglected, the only thing that makes me feel better is going out skating and for some reason i dont give a fuck for throughing myself at stuff, surprinsingley is paying off and man does it feel great, might not be as bad as your situation but i found that skating a lot more does a lot for me, by myself or with people.
austin from texas
try writing it all down. not necessarily a journal type thing where you have to write in it everyday. just something you can write in when you feel down. just put all your feelings and thoughts down on paper. its a physical way of getting out all of the things that are going on inside of you without paying money, risking dignity, or putting it on someobody else. a lot of the time it will really help you work through issues, allowing your thought process to come around full circle so you can physically see the faults and strong points.
all of the others advice is really good too, listen to all these people
Just go rollerblade.
You need to recognize that seeking out for help on be-mag isnt the best solution. Its a bit like asking your friends for support. And your friends cannot relate and are not qualified to help you. They are not a solution.
A depression is always frozen anger, now somewhere along the road you have lost track of your own feelings or more likely you have been blocked to recognize that you are infact very angry. There are very simple ways to leviate depression. Such as: get a good sleeping rythm, get daylight into your system and regular walks. Eat alot of fish and vegetables. There are also kbt solutions, one simple thing that really helps alot of people is to look into common thinking errors. I know that theres a list of about a hundred of them, but to find it in english proved to be rather hard.
heres a link with thinking errors related to depressions: http://www.webmd.com/balance/features/common-thinking-errors
And while where at it heres a test to determine how far you have been effected so far: http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/depression/MH00103_D
If you feel that your mood does not change within a month time dont ignore that fact, to do so is a part of the psychopathology. To feel that it is hopeless to make a change or that you are somehow not deserving to change your thought pattern. The best thing for you to do then is to see a licensed therapist, in all propability he/she will give you small dozes of zoloft in combination to solving your issues. Now most people seem to think that there is a great shame in seeking out for help, those are the kind of people that will tell you: "Just get on with it", "Think positive" etc etc.. They are wrong, and to engage in such thinking is infact in sharp contrast to what you really need to do, that is to realise the roots of your anger.
Good luck to you buddy, youre smart enough to do something about it and thats more than most people!
Cycling consistently, or possibly running. Fortunately I don't suffer from any depression but I've heard this works wonders.
Personally, I ride between 30-40 miles 5x/wk. Try something like that? Good luck.
[skating requires too many breaks]
man i just got out of a stupid depression, literally two days ago.
i had quit rollerblading, quit my job, lost everything, and was just staying in my apartment for weeks at a time talking to no one, drinking everyday...
what helped me was not drinking for a while, talking to girls, eventually bagging one, seeing the homies again, even if i didnt want to, once i was around them i was in a better mood.
try going to bed earlier too... the middle of the night will only bring bad thoughts in a time like that..
and ALWAYS listen to your favorite jams/bring an ipod wherever you go. that was the biggest help.
I have been writing it down. Like when I get in one of those moods, I'll just open up word and type away. Some of the shit is pretty depressing to re-read, but it feels good when I type it out.
I used to skate when I got in those moods, but the weather here in Washington sucks donkey dick, and I don't live by any covered/indoor spots/parks. I started working out instead of skating when the weather is bad, which helps, but doesn't get my mind off of stuff enough, and I end up just letting shit fester.
I think I am going to try to go to a therapist, but I have no idea what to say when I get in the room. I have a feeling it would be us just staring at each other for an hour. I don't open up well to people face to face.
Anyone ever been to a therapist, and if so, how was it? I know each one is different, but I guess what is a typical session like?
austin from texas
people who specialize in therapy and are willing to actually talk instead of just give you pills have a natural tendency to get people to open up most of the time. dont worry about what to say, theyll find what they need to know. if you do look for one, look for a cognitive behavioral therapist. that means they identify your thought patterns, point out the flaws, and help you change the way you think about situations. ultimately this helps you, literally, have a completely different outlook for life. antidepressants are not the way, they just make shit worse.
also, writing with pen and paper helps way more than typing. its more intimate and personal
I often lurk in these forums; you probably dont have depression, according to the DSM (Diagnostic Statistic Manual) look it up.
Your friends are probably shit, get your dick out and see if they approve, if they dont, move on and get drunk.
fuck dude real sorry to hear this man, austin has a good point no need to worry about what you need to say they will figure the shit out.I am quite fucked in the state then when i feel this way i wana fucking over excersise myself or fucking push myself way beyond my limits in skating, like i said fucked up but makes me feel better, and i feel way better at night looking back at the day
The Average Homeboy
I've been in the same situation. I've been having really morbid thoughts, Not giving a fuck about anything.
The whole not giving a fuck thing is not always a good answer, not having any care and motivation is just another form of depression sometimes.
i actually have been thinking of going to a doctor or something.
I used to skate when I got in those moods, but the weather here in Washington sucks donkey dick,
look into getting one of those artificial sun lamps. not being exposed to sunlight on the regular can really make you feel shitty.
Why don't you kill yourself faggot
i doubt going to a dubstep concert is going to help
Fuck sluts, that always helps.
If you kill yourself you end up here again, with different variables.
So, stop being depressed! :)
Kill some hookers, that always brings a smile on my dial....
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